The Consequences of Addiction on Relationships
In any relationship, emotional and physical well-being is essential for it to remain healthy. But when one person or both struggle with addiction, such as to drugs, alcohol, or gambling, it can have a significant negative effect on both partners’ overall well-being. Addiction can cause a deterioration of trust, communication, and respect—and can separate couples physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
For couples, the consequences of addiction threaten not only their relationship but their individual lives. Unfortunately, addiction can lead to behaviors that individuals use to cope with, manage, and cover up their struggle. This could include lying, hoarding cash, evading conversations, appearing distant, and more. All of these behaviors have damaging effects on the relationship, as well as on the person with the addiction.
One of the most long-term effects of addiction on relationships is the development of an unhealthy and codependent relationship. This is when one partner attempts to control or manipulate the other to change their behavior, or they may sacrifice their own needs and sense of self to attempt to “fix” the person addicted—all in an attempt to save the relationship. Unfortunately, this does more harm than good. It can create a cycle of resentment, depletion, and cycle of chaotic relationships.
The effects of addiction can cause stress and grief, and can also increase the pressure on the relationship. Even if one partner is not struggling with an addiction themselves, they can become overwhelmed trying to pick up the slack—emotionally, financially, or otherwise—for the person with the addiction. This can create all sorts of strains on the relationship and, if left unchecked, can cause resentment and further distance.
Due to stigma and shame surrounding addiction, those who struggle can feel embarrassed to seek help and can push away those they love. It’s important to remember that addiction is a disease and should be treated as such. Therapy, professional help, and support circles can assist couples in understanding the effects of addiction—and how to move through them in order to heal the relationship. With a combination of respect, understanding, and compassion, the cycle of addiction can be broken and healing can begin.
When experiencing a relationship struggle, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and uncertain. But it’s important to remember that, with the right support and guidance, it is possible to overcome the negative consequences of addiction and take steps towards recovery. If both partners are willing to do the work, the relationship can emerge stronger, healthier, and closer than ever before.